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Activism |
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Origins of ELAW |
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L: I feel
like I tell people all the time that I couldn’t have written a better
script for my professional life if I had sat down and tried to write it,
and I feel like some of it was being in the right place at the right
time. I also think that you make choices along the way, and things get to you because of the choices that you make.
The two, I think I talked about the law professors who started
my organization. I was working in the law office, and we were
bringing, as a litigation assistant, and we were bring a law suit to
stop commercial cougar hunting in Oregon, which was a horrible barbaric
practice of, you know they put radio collars on
dogs, and then the hunters sit in the back of the pick up truck and
drink beer or whatever while the dogs go chase down the cougar.
And then, when the cougars are treed the dogs lift their heads up
to watch the cougar, and the radio collar goes off, and the hunters just
come and shoot the cougar at 10 fee, 15 feet, really close range, it’s
just horrible. So we were
bringing a law suit to stop that practice, to make that illegal.
And I got to know these two law professors who were involved in
that case. And so they got
to see that I was organized and smart, and committed and all that stuff,
so that when they, and that I knew something about nonprofit management
because the lawyer I was working for was also helping groups get up and
started, [unclear] one two three charitable organizations and, but
mostly they saw that I was 22, 23 years old, and was smart and was going
to work hard. So they gave
me an award at, there’s a public interest environmental law conference
that happens here every spring, and they honor people in the community
who are committed to the cause.
So they gave me an award at this conference for you know, for being committed basically and working hard, and [unclear] those same law
professors started ELAW, the organization that I work with, and they
knew that I had some experience with environmental law and some
management experience, and was smart, and had some international
experience from living in London.
And, just that at that point in my life I was ready to take on
whatever anybody handed me.
So, they offered me this job, and at that point they had a half a
million dollar grant and a really good idea.
But, no idea about how to do it.
You know, how do you really set up an international network of
lawyers to help each other?
So they gave me a lap top and a phone line and an office, and that was
you know February of 1991.
So now, this organization is more than 300 lawyers in 60 countries.
So it was clearly a gift that I happened to be there and have the
respect and trust of these lawyers.
As I said it’s a gift.
It’s just been amazing, and these people that I work with are
heroes you know in their home countries, and face horrible
circumstances, and some of them get thrown in jail for bringing law
suits on unpopular causes, and you know just operating at such great
personal risk, that you know, all along the way you don’t have much time
to think about whether, "Do I have the energy to do this right now?"
because what they’re facing is so much more serious than what I’m facing
that you just move forward.
And they become like, they have become like, a family.
So, it’s been, it’s been…
great, and wonderful, and the fact that I get to work with these people
everyday is just amazing.
And at the time it didn’t really occur to me to be intimidated by the
prospect. It was just what
was in front of me and it was such an amazing opportunity that I just
went all out. And of course
I was single and childless, so just poured everything into work, and,
and it was a good idea these professors had, so it was um, bound to be
successful in some ways.
It’s good stuff and I’m grateful all the time that I get to do
it. Because, sometimes you know in this world right now with this
president we have and our, in my opinion, backsliding horribly, it can
feel pretty hopeless. And,
I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been sitting in my office
thinking, "Thank God I got to do this," because no matter where we end
up I’m doing the best that I feel like I can for the planet. And 20
years ago it was a good idea, but
because of communication technology it was just a whole different
ballgame.
I consider myself
an organizer and an activist.
In the beginning, when we first started doing this work a lot of
what I did was look for people who would fit our perception of a
public interest environmental lawyer and then help them get connected to
email for example so that they could communicate with the rest of the
world. That was the
building the network part.
And in 1991 there were a lot of places in the world that didn’t have
access to email.
I
was hired in 1991. Now we have 10 staff people and my job is sort of fit
between the administration part of things and the program part of
things. The administration
part of things: I
manage the money, I write the budget, I sign the checks, I oversee our
finances, I deal with the board of directors, I help raise money but
that’s not my primary job.
I do that mostly by writing grants for work in the particular regions
that I’m involved in. I
manage staff so I do personnel evaluations and I help, with the
executive director I hire and evaluate staff and manage staff and give
them feedback and help people prioritize their workloads and that kind
of thing.
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The Meso American Reef Project |
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L:
The other half, the other half is what we call my program part,
and I have probably worn about every hat in the department over the
years, but right now I’m responsible for Central
America. We
call me the Latin America Program coordinator, but the reality is most
of my work is in Central America.
And, in the last 3 or 4 years most of my work, even in
Central America has been confined to
Honduras, Guatemala, Belize,
and Mexico.
And, so what I’m doing is helping to build a coalition of
activist lawyers who are working to protect a particular regional
ecosystem, and that is the MesoAmerican Reef and the watersheds that
flow from the continent to the reef, that affect the reef.
So I do that by developing multinational projects that support
the work that the partners on the ground identify to be their highest
priority work.
I’m going to Belize next week to have a meeting
of what I call a MesoAmerican legal strategy group.
And this is lawyers from those four countries who are working on
conservation strategies using law to protect the reef and also the
watershed. And the way we
do that is some of them litigate cases, some of them work on policy
reform issues. They all
represent communities, and people who are otherwise disenfranchised, or
wouldn’t be able to get representation otherwise.
Let me give a specific example. So, as you can
imagine, right now, oil development is huge, all around the world.
Everyone is trying to squeeze every last drop out of every rock,
tree, anywhere they can find it, so we can drive big cars and suck up
most of the planet’s resources.
So here’s a case, a very specific example.
There’s a US oil company that has been granted permission
by the Belizian government to explore for oil in this one area in Belize.
There’s been no environmental impact assessment done of
the possible impact of exploring for oil in this otherwise untouched
tropical ecosystem. The
area is managed by five different indigenous groups, and it’s a national
park. So there are a whole bunch of things that are illegal about this
plan. But the government of Belize is so eager to attract foreign investment
that they’ve just given this permission, violating their own laws to the US oil
company. So, the local
lawyer decides to file a law suit to try to force them to at least do an
environmental impact assessment.
So what we do is help that lawyer find the right expert, the
right scientific expert, to write an affidavit to say that it’s a bad
idea to look for oil in this place, because it is going to destroy the
forest, and it’s going to ruin the local people’s livelihood.
So we help her get a scientific expert.
Our lawyers on staff help her analyze the provisions of Belizian
law that would apply to this case, and help her formulate her legal
argument. There has, up
until this point, there has only been one other case ever filed in
Belize on an environmental matter, so it’s a whole new area of law.
So the lawyers help her formulate her legal argument.
Then I helped her develop a community organizing strategy because
the community is these five indigenous groups who co-manage the park.
And the oil company, of course, has gone down there and done a big
propaganda campaign to tell the community that with oil comes
prosperity. Everybody’s
going to have jobs, and it’s going to be… you know, it’s good for
everybody. When the reality
is, the US
company’s going to get rich, destroy, extract the oil, destroy the
forest and then leave. And,
so, but they’ve been bought out.
Some of the community leaders have been effectively bought out by
this oil company so, we go with the local lawyer and do community legal
education workshops where we first tell people what the laws are that
pertain to this particular thing, what has happened in other countries
where oil has been developed in similar ecosystems and what has happened
in those communities um, and then what their public participation rights
are, how they can get involved in the decision.
So, in the beginning of this case the community was against the
law suit because they thought you’re trying to take away our jobs, but
in the end the community signed on as plaintiffs in the law suit and
realized that this was the wrong thing and at the
very least they needed to be
afforded the right to negotiate with the company about some of the
benefits. If they are going
to come in and exploit the oil that the community needs to get some of
the benefits of that. So
that’s kind of a, a uh, and we helped develop a media strategy… so
that’s kind of the whole ELAW treatment, you know, how we support the
local lawyer. So the local lawyer’s the one who decides what’s best in
his or her country at any given time, and our job is to build them up
and help them get the resources they need to do their job.
Next week for example I’m going to Belize because in part, I’ve now
helped that local lawyer raise money to hire a full time staff attorney
to do this work all the time.
Because that lawyer was a volunteer lawyer, who was primarily a
human rights lawyer, had never brought an environmental case, and has a
very busy other practice.
So she said, you know what really need, because, you know, even if we
chase them out of this part of Belize, they’re coming back.
At this point in time every square inch of Belizian territory has
been given to some oil company to look for it, so Belize
has granted oil rights for the entire country.
It’s insane. So the
local lawyer says, we got to have somebody on this, not just on oil
development but on everything, all the time.
And so, um, next week I’m going to be helping that local lawyer,
at her request, interview people for a new full time position.
So I helped her raise the money to hire somebody and now she’s
asked if I’ll come down and
help her interview, so that’s one of the things that we’re doing.
And then the other thing is the MesoAmerican Strategy Group,
meaning the lawyers from the other countries also, are meeting, and we
are talking about marine coastal zone management and planning, how it’s
done around the world, how it could be improved in each of these four
countries, and what we can do as a group over the next year to take the
next step in getting the marine coastal zone protected.
For example in Mexico, they have limits on hotel room density so
when these giant 5-star resorts go in and want to build, the way that
they’re regulated is they have different hoops they have to jump
through depending on the size of the development.
So, we’re looking as a strategy group at implementing similar
restrictions in the other three countries, so that’s another thing that
we’re doing.
We do coastal zone management.
So I’m taking with me you know models from the
US.
I’ve just recruited a law professor from the University of Florida
who happens to also be an oceanographer and has developed coastal zone
management plans for the country of Panama so he’s going to help us
through this. So, basically
whatever the local partners perceive to be their highest priorities.
Most of America really
doesn’t want to think about it (environmental issues)right now.
But this country is the problem. I mean in other places
people get it, because there aren’t any fish out there, and there’s no
water, and it’s dirty and polluted, and people are sick.
And, and they, you know there governments are corrupt, so… You
know in MesoAmerica we’re
working with people who have worked in industry but who are trying to
create an eco-tourism industry in the alternative.
There’s one group that I worked with in Belize where the guy who
founded the group was a commercial fishing guide I think, and now he
runs an NGO and takes, has developed tourism around sport fishing, and
it’s catch and release, and so, you know, in other places I think it’s
more in your face in some ways.
In this country it’s really hard, because we’re so disconnected from
where our food comes from, from where our water comes from.
I mean I think starting with kids, I love the way my kid’s school
is teaching them for example, geography is they’re learning their water
shed and where their drinking water comes from.
And, so I mean that’s an important thing, integrating it from the
beginning. Um, finding ways to make it relevant to their lives,
you know why does it matter to me?
Well, because the future looks different if you care so
bringing it home is the thing, you know, making people understand why it
matters in their lives or the lives of their children.
In the region that I’m
working now, in the MesoAmerican reef region, there’s a lot of drug
trafficking, so cocaine and other drugs from Columbia come up the
Caribbean side sometimes and pass by that gulf of Honduras so there’s a
very powerful drug mafia that really doesn’t want any government
intervention in that area.
It’s the wild, wild West there, even though it’s the east coast of Central America (laughs).
But they really don’t want any government oversight of any
activities in that region.
Partly there’s some growing happening there, but it’s mostly they just
don’t want law enforcement in the area.
And so what we’re trying to do is promote better
enforcement of environmental laws and that means more oversight.
In Guatemala there were two public prosecutors,
lawyers who were posted in that state, in eastern Guatemala, and their job was to
bring enforcement actions against people who were breaking environmental
laws, and within four months they were both murdered.
So those were people who work for the government, and the
government ostensibly affords you some security.
So the people who are in the NGO community have even less
security. I just last
week in Belize I was meeting with that regional strategy
group, and my partner from
Honduras
came, and the first thing she handed me was an article about another
environmentalist assassinated.
In those cases it’s fear of people killing you,
people threatening your family, and sometimes it’s personal risk,
sometimes it’s professional risk.
And we just try to keep track of people.
And try to bring them some safety by affiliation.
But we have really strict protocols about what we do because
sometimes it can endanger them further when an international
organization comes in and intervenes on their behalf.
But, we have protocols about… we never do anything without asking
the partner or their contact people about what they want us to do.
So that’s an example of the risks that they take, putting themselves on the line politically, personally,
professionally, and putting themselves in danger.
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Community Legal Education |
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L: One thing that I think is important, and is increasingly
important, is this idea of community legal education.
In the beginning of ELAW what we did was support lawyers who
were bringing lawsuits to court.
Now we still do that, but we help a lot more broadly, in part
because the partners have asked us to.
So we’ve had to evolve and change the services we provide to meet
the evolving needs of our partners.
And, and I, the community legal education piece, the reason I
think it’s important, and it’s and I’m coming to realize that it’s been
a thread throughout my professional career.
When, when I worked before ELAW with lawyers one of the things
that I did, and one of the things that was important to me, was making
sure that the communities who were affected by the decision were
involved in the decision that was being made.
And now, it seems so important to me, in this world, where
increasingly multinational corporations are making decisions about
people’s lives that people have to understand the law, and they have to
understand that the law belongs to them and not to the multinational
corporations (laughs) and they have to feel empowered to do something
about their lives. Um… I
mean, It’s a problem in this country, but it’s a problem
everywhere. The people that
are most affected by pollution and degradation of natural resources are
the people that have, in some cases, the least access to participation
and decisions about those natural resources.
So in the region that I’m working in, fisheries along that coast
line support people. I mean
they completely support the economies of those countries.
And if we give
Belize
away to oil companies, and they destroy the forest, and there’s
sedimentation landing on the reef that is killing the reef that feeds
the fish, people need to know that that is going to happen.
And they need to know
that they can do something about it.
Because for me, even, you know you win, if you win a victory in
court and you set aside a wilderness area that if you haven’t involved
community in that process, you haven’t really won.
I feel increasingly like educating people about the law,
encouraging them to participate in legal systems, is going to be the
thing that has potential to change the world. I did a workshop, I tell this story all the time, so I
might have told you already.
We did a workshop in Honduras, on the north coast of Honduras, on an island called Rowatan, where we
first published a guide to public participation in environmental
decision making with a local lawyer in
Honduras.
And we did a workshop with this community to you know present the
guide and help them get involved.
And the community members walked us around and showed us the
problems they perceived, like, there was a big resort being developed in
one area and people didn’t want it there, and it was hurting the coast
line, and they were drudging sand, and it was hurting the reef.
And, um, and then we talked to them about, ok , well that’s
happening. Here’s the
provision that allows you to speak up and participate in this decision.
And at the end of that workshop these two women who were probably
in their early 70’s and they were Garifuna.
They’re mostly African descent of people who were brought over centuries ago
to be slaves in British Honduras
but were then freed and they became kind of like the indigenous
population of that coast line, so they’ve been there longer than anybody
else with the possible exception of the ancient Mayan civilization.
And these two older Garifuna women stood up and said, you know,
"nobody’s ever asked my opinion about how my island develops, and here
you are telling me, that not only do you want to hear my opinion but
you’re going to help me make the outcome different."
And she said, "I from this day forward you know I’m forming a
vigilant, a committee of vigilance to try and engage people in this
community in deciding how this island develops."
And so those moments to me are way bigger than the judge handing
down a decision. See what I mean?
Because I can walk away from that community and feel like that
woman is on it! (laughing)
and, and it’ s her island, it’s not my island.
That’s why over the last several years I have felt like
one of the most effective things that we do is this community legal
education.
Right now I have an
intern who’s working on the community legal education program with me,
who is an international studies student and is interested in
cross-cultural communications and how people train people, what kinds of
materials they use because a lot of the--- a lot of that work, you
know if you want fishing, illiterate fishing communities to stay in
compliance with laws about what fish you can take when, you have to
teach them what the rules are first, and if they can’t read then you
have to make visual materials, and so some of our partners are doing
that, are like translating the fishery laws of Guatemala into both
written indigenous languages and into pictures and designs, and so this
intern is helping me compile and categorize all of the community legal
education information from all of our partners, all the different things
that they do, and it’s a
huge mass of stuff right now, so her job is going to be, with my
supervision to figure how to categorize it, how to distinguish the
different kinds of things people do.
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Activism and Spirituality |
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L:
I grew up in a fairly progressive Presbyterian family,
but kind of threw out the baby with the bath water on religion when I
was in my teens, because the definitions I was being handed about
religion and about God, I didn’t agree with.
I remember vividly a moment where someone suggested to me that
people in other places who had never heard of Christianity were still
going to go to hell or something horrible because they hadn’t accepted
Christ into their life. And
of course most Christians don’t believe that but at the time that was
what I heard and I thought, I have no use for this at all.
And, later… and so I just, I blew off the whole thing, didn’t do
any religion at all…
I took a class called um, parents as resident theologians and
spiritual guides at the
Unitarian
Church because I wanted to
be thoughtful about what my kids received.
This is how we got introduced to the Unitarian Church
actually is that we took this class.
It was full of people like me who had thrown out the baby
with the bath water and decided in a somewhat hostile way in some cases,
and in my case some of the time, I have no use for this religion, it’s
garbage, I don’t believe the tenants, and it’s done more bad for the
world than good. And there were you know, mostly Christian, but
different branches of Christian people in this class, who had started to have a yearning for a spiritual life and were trying to put
one together for themselves outside of organized religion.
And it was, the class was great because it was an exercise in
thinking back about the religion of your youth and figuring out if there
were things you wanted to keep from it, and then looking at how you
perceive your spirituality in the present and whether there was any
overlap between those two things.
Had you unwittingly brought some things forth in other words, and
what do you want to impart to your kids, that was the whole. It was
wonderful, it was just a facilitated fun class.
And the thing that I remembered, the word that I most associated
that I wanted to keep from the Presbyterian upbringing was service.
Because the church that I was raised in focused a lot on service
work, and so that opened a door to me.
You know, getting acquainted with the Unitarians.
It’s very wide open.
There isn’t any religious dogma associated with Unitarian Universalism.
It’s, there are principles that they practice, but they’re not about
belief systems, they’re more about, so within our church there are 500
different with 500 different ideas about what God is.
Some of them don’t believe in God, some of them are Buddhists,
some of them are Christians, some of them are Atheists, some of them---
but they’re all, they all seek a spiritual life and want to share a path
with community, with other people.
So that to me, was a little bit of a microcosm for how I feel the
world needs to be a little bit more.
Because religion is so divisive in our world now.
I just started to feel, this was maybe you know, ten years ago,
that as activists we need to bring people of different faiths together
because if we’re going to change the world, it’s going to take all of
us. So for those two
reasons, one because it’s a divisive thing instead of a uniting thing
right now, but, but also we have to transcend differences and if we can
do it there, we can do it anywhere.
Once in a bar in
Mexico, (laughs) with, you know I work with a lot
of people in Latin America and the Catholic Church is dominant in Latin
America and is vastly more progressive than the Catholic Church here and
in Europe.
Liberation theology is from Latin America
and there are just a lot of progressive Catholics who take a very
expansive view of Catholicism.
And, so I was in a bar in Mexico with some people that I work
with and we got to talking about,
imagine what we could do if we could get the Catholic Church in
Latin America to get involved in caring about environmentalism and
saving the planet, so we challenged each other to go off and do some
work to rally some people of faith to get involved in the cause, and as
I explained to you earlier what I did, was just last year I came back
and organized a big reading of an author, but deliberately did it, he’s
a political author, but deliberately did it in such a way that it
brought five different communities of faith together to talk about the
challenges that we face collectively.
And so I’m just looking for ways to infuse that in the day to day
work, and in that way introduced whole new communities of people
to ELAW’s work. And um, and
I just, it’s like what I was saying earlier about, if I’m just going to
work, work, work and not be present then what’s the point; it’s the same
thing. If I’m not going to
do it on a spiritual path and, you know a way that’s honoring
and respectful of that part of all of us, then I’m missing some of the
point. You know, that’s a
midlife thing. That’ll
happen to you in 20 years maybe.
(laughs) I started to read a lot of things about midlife when I
hit 40 and it’s a common thread with people that they start to seek a
spiritual path. A lot of
people get born again at that point, a lot of people are um, doing… you
know whatever, get involved with their own spiritual practices.
I also practice Yoga, so Yoga’s union and cohesion and balance,
and so, it’s all part of the same thing.
But I, I don’t think—I came upon Yoga because of my life and that
that’s a spiritual practice too.
But activism is a spiritual practice too.
I mean what’s the point, I’m never going to make a lot of money.
It’s, it’s right livelihood.
I don’t know if you use those words now, but right livelihood is
the idea that you, um, you try to do work you feel good about and
honorable about, and that isn’t about making money, it’s more about
other things.
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People in the Network |
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L: Well
right now we have a partner in
Ethiopia
who is in prison and has been for two years and is facing the death
penalty. Because he, Ethiopia as
you probably know has complicated politics and a few years ago they had
what was supposed to be a democratic election, a presidential election,
but there was a lot of corruption and some NGO’s were monitoring the
elections, and the Ethiopian government in an attempt to not allow their
local people to monitor the elections passed a law saying that no
domestic organization was allowed to monitor
the elections, only international monitors could.
And this organization challenged that law, filed a law suit
challenging the constitutionality of that law, and won.
And gained the right to monitor the elections.
Did that, and then following the elections there was a lot of
unrest and upheaval and demonstrations and protests because they weren’t
held democratically and a hundred and some people were arrested in
connection with those demonstrations, not at the time but later (in
unison) were arrested and they
were imprisoned. And
Netsanet is our partner’s name, was not
one of the people who organized the demonstrations, but because he had
been involved earlier in the lawsuit about election monitoring he was
arrested with a lot of other opposition people and the charges against
him are affectively sedition although it’s not called sedition against
his government and he’s been held now almost two years and um, the
penalty in Ethiopia for sedition, for this act, is the death penalty.
And so, he did nothing violent, he did nothing wrong, he didn’t
even do the things they’re angry about and he’s in jail, but just
because he’s trying to uphold democratic ideals.
L: I think I told you the
story of the woman in
Malaysia, did I?
At the beginning of
ELAW story?
So that woman
was held in prison for 43 days in solitary confinement with no charges
against her because the government of Malaysia didn’t want her to chase
Mitsubishi out of the country.
They wanted foreign investors, and, so they perceive her to be a threat.
And came to her house, took her away, put her in jail.
And, so sometimes the people that threaten our partners are their
governments.
It takes a certain a kind of person too.
I’m thinking of an Indian friend.
This is kind of a melding of the last couple of question you’ve
been asking me. I have a
very dear friend in India who is an
amazing leader. He won a
Goldman Environmental Prize, he’s brought law suits in the supreme court
of India that for example shut down all development on the coastline
within 500 meters of the high tide line, in one fell swoop kind of
thing, he’s just so powerful his, and he’s, and just audacious, he’s
just decided this is how it should be, and he’s persuaded the court that
this is the way the law is and you just have to acknowledge that and at
one point he was so compelling they set one day aside a week to hear his
cases because he was so changing the way the court had seen the law to
that point, that they viewed him as that important.
But, so on the one hand he’s this intense powerful litigator,
on the other hand, he said to me, “Lori, you study 25 years, you work 25
years, and you reflect 25 years.” (pounding fist on table) “This is what
you have to do.” And I’m thinking
how do I reconcile this because people like him make you want to go out
and work work work work, but at the same time he’s telling me, and what
he’s doing now, in his, because he’s just past 50, is he’s mentoring
young lawyers in South Asia and he’s built an Ashram, what he’s calling
an Eco-Ashram, so he’s building a sustainable Ashram with solar and all
kinds of stuff, and, and training people to pick up the baton and people
are begging him to keep working, but he says, you know, what would be
the point, this is what I’m supposed to do.
In the US you get to the point where you
have a certain expectation of feminism, like there’s
a 101 level that we’ve covered here, right?
And you don’t have people make remarks to you about certain
things, and you, you know, I think anyway, you just take some things for
granted and I don’t take those things for granted in other
places. And in fact I was
just telling Meche, my Peruvian dear housemate that there’s this one man
I work with in X, who every time I see him, he’s in his 60’s, and I’ve
seen him a million times we’ve worked together quite a bit, but
every time I see him you know I say, “you remember me
Mr.X I’m Lori” and he always says,
“oh the beautiful Lori” and starts to make comments about my appearance.
Okay, and I would never tolerate that here.
I would say, you know, “That’s not really appropriate to make
that kind of...” I mean he
says things, not just you’re beautiful, but quasi lewd sexual comments,
that I would never let somebody get away with here, but I do with him,
because it’s his culture.
He’s different than I am. So
that’s a challenge sometimes when you know the hair stands up on the
back of your neck when someone makes a comment like that.
And you have to decide what the balance between deference and
respect for that person and respect for yourself.
So that’s sometimes delicate.
But, you know I know I have to work with this guy, and I
like him, he does good work, I just don’t like this one aspect of how
he, you know is kind of a lewd… man. (laughs) So, so that’s sometimes a
thing. But and that,
specifically Latin America and Africa
sometimes too.
We have one partner in X who every time he
comes to a meeting brings a person who he says is his wife, but it’s
been a different person? A number of times.
And there are a few Latin men who have done that, but I think
they travel with their affairs, and so do the African men, same thing.
And so, so for American women sometimes that pushes some buttons.
(laughs) but again that’s an example of where, um what we’re
doing together is trying to do this environmental work so I’m going to
just leave that piece over there and
keep my eye on what, what our shared values are, even though, I
mean that’s what it’s all about right?
We all have different values around different things and we find
the things we want to do together and move forward, and honor, um other
difference and let them go. Even though it bugs us sometimes.
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